Do you want a relationship but you are scared of getting hurt?
Once you are hurt, you will probably build up a wall from the outside world. But fear is a toxic emotion and to release it, you must try to understand it and develop clarity before you can let love flow in. Check out the quotes below – you will be able to relate to them about getting hurt and your fear of getting hurt. They will also help you eventually choose love over fear.
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Scared of getting hurt again quotes
1. “We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” Eleanor Roosevelt
2. “To be honest, I’m just scared of getting hurt again.” Unknown
3. “Fear loves the idea of danger.” Joubert
4. “I’m so afraid of losing something I love, that I refuse to love anything.” Jonathan Safran Foer
5. “I’m not afraid to try again, I’m just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason.” Anurag Prakash Ray
6. I am not mad. I am hurt. There is a difference. Share on X
7. “Don’t hold yourself back because you’re afraid or because you’ve been hurt … acknowledge your fear, accept it, and walk through it with confidence.” Iyanla Vanzant
8. “We can endure much more than we think we can; all human experience testifies to that. All we need to do is learn not to be afraid of pain. Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever. One day, the pain will be gone and you will still be there.” Harold S. Kushner
9. “You mustn’t be so afraid of life – it’s all we’ve got. Don’t let it hurt you so much” Anna Kavan
10. I’m not afraid to try again, I’m just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason. Share on X
11. Everyone is going to hurt you in some point in your life. It is up to you to figure out who is worth suffering for.
12. “If you’re hurting, don’t be afraid to seek the help you need! Speak to someone – it may just change your life.” Demi Lovato
13. “Reckon it’s best if you don’t have anyone you care about; then it can’t hurt you. Don’t have to be afraid of losing someone if you no one to lose.” Karen Maitland
14. “You don’t have to be afraid,” he says. “I’m not going to hurt you.” he whispers, “unless you want me to.” J.M. Darhower
15. “May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Nelson Mandela
16. “Resist your fear; fear will never lead to you a positive end. Go for your faith and what you believe.” T. D. Jakes
17. “Why do I keep holding on to the things and people that hurt me over and over again?”
18. “To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.” — Joseph Chilton Pearce
19. “You deserve more out of life than simply sheltering yourself from the possibility of being hurt again.” Unknown
20. Let it hurt, and then let it go. Share on X
21. “Living with fear stops us taking risks, and if you don’t go out on the branch, you’re never going to get the best fruit.” Sarah Parish
22. “If you hold back your feelings because you’re afraid of getting hurt, you’ll end up hurting anyway.” Unknown
23. “You never know if that person likes you, you have to trust yourself. Don’t be afraid to get hurt.” Anna Napper
24. “Don’t give up the search for happiness because you’re afraid of getting hurt.” Martha Raye
25. Don't be afraid to explore the shadows. You might find some hope within the hurt. Erin Saldin Share on X
26. “It is amazing how just a few words can just tear you apart inside.” Unknown
27. “Love is like hurting yourself, you get hurt, scared, frightened and most of all the memory of it will not only scare, but scar you for life” Bianca Knoechel
28. “To hurt is as human as breathing. So breathe when you are feeling wounded and allow yourself to heal.” Unknown
29. After a certain point, I have realized that I am going to keep getting hurt if I do not let learn to let go of this. Share on X
30. “Although we want to be close with others, we maintain a distance so we won’t be hurt.” Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection
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Scared to love again quotes
31. “We fear the thing we want the most.” Robert Anthony
32. “Love is scary! Taking a vow to love someone through sickness and health, for richer for poorer, forsaking all others, until death do us part, is the most terrifying experience a person can have. Why pretend any differently?” Elin Hilderbrand, Beautiful Day
33. “Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.” Henri Nouwen
34. “I’m afraid to love, because I don’t want to get hurt.” Grace Marcelo
35. “Those who love to be feared fear to be loved, and they themselves are more afraid than anyone, for whereas other men fear only them, they fear everyone.” St. Francis de Sales
36. To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead. Bertrand Russell Share on X
37. “A taste so profound and complex that it can’t even be compared to other tastes, only to emotions. Cheesy waffles, I was thinking, tastes like love without the fear of love’s dissolution.” John Green
38. “I’ve never fallen in love right off the bat. I get scared to say I love you too soon because it means so much. It means you’re not seeing an end to things.” Leighton Meester
39. “Every time I start getting close to someone, I put up a wall. I’m afraid of getting hurt that I shield myself from love.” Unknown
40. ”There are two basic motivating forces. Fear and love.” John Lennon
41. “The opposite of love is not hate. It is fear.” Gary Zukav
42. “The fear to love reaches sometimes the depth of a panic, resembles sometimes the fear to die.” Theodor Reik
43. “The pleasures of love are always in proportion to our fears.” Stendhal
44. “Then he’d come back home and found out that war didn’t cause fear. Love did.” Patricia Briggs
45. “Love casts out fear, but we have to get over the fear in order to get close enough to love them.” Dorothy Day
46. I’m afraid of love, because it involves things that are beyond our understanding, it sheds such a brilliant light, but the shadow it casts frightens me. Paulo Coelho Share on X
47. “Once you’ve been hurt, you’re so scared to get attached again. There is this fear that every person you start to like is going to hurt you again.” Unknown
48. “If the idea of loving those whom you have been taught to recognize as your enemies is too overwhelming, consider more deeply the observation that we are all much more alike than we are unalike.” Aberjhani, Splendid Literarium: A Treasury of Stories, Aphorisms, Poems, and Essays
49. “Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they chose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them.” Bell Hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
50. And it all comes out so lame. I love your mouth. I love your hair. I love your ears. I want you. I want you. I want you. Anything to avoid saying: I love you. Erica Jong, Fear of Flying Share on X
51. “You push people away … You close yourself off to anyone and anything that doesn’t fit in your perfect little hamster ball of life. But you can’t experience love only on your own terms. It doesn’t work that way.” Kate Lattey, Dream On
52. “It is the privilege of those who fear love to murder those who do not fear it.” Mary Sarton
53. “When we put our running shoes on and fight tooth and nail to hide from someone, it’s because that’s the person who really matters. That’s the one person you fear will see what’s inside you and cringe.” Rebel Farris, Pivot Line
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54. “All healing is essentially a release from fear.” A Course in Miracles
55. “The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.” Mahatma Gandhi
56. “We must lose our fear of being wrong, of being perceived as weak or lesser than or something else. The option of choosing love over fear is present in nearly everything we think, say, and do. It’s not an impractical thing to wonder how you can live from a place of compassion, desire, and hope rather than insecurity, guilt, and resentment.” Jennifer Williamson, Healing Brave
57. “Don’t be afraid to get hurt. It’s far better than never experiencing anything earth-shattering. Even temporary joy is better than nothing at all.” Vi Keeland
58. If you want the moon, do not hide from the night. If you want a rose, do not run from the thorns. If you want love, do not hide from yourself. Rumi Share on X
59. “If you knew the secret of life, you too would choose no other companion but love.” Rumi (attributed)
60. “Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.” Merle Shain
61. “You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say ‘no more,’ until you choose change. If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken to love, you will become, you will be. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve. Choose love.” Creig Crippen
62. I choose love over fear, always. I’d rather burn in the fire after touching something true than not feel anything. Victoria Erickson Share on X
63. “I’ll choose honest over perfect every single time.” Rachel Wolchin
64. “Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth.” Marianne Williamson
65. “The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love.” Marianne Williamson
66. In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety. Abraham Maslow Share on X
67. “Don’t move the way fear makes you move. Move the way love makes you move. Move the way joy makes you move.” Rajneesh
68. “Fear is a sneaky thief, stealing away precious moments of your life.” Elizabeth Lesser
69. “If you want to tap into what life has to offer, let love be your primary mode of being, not fear. Fear closes us down and makes us retreat. It locks doors and limits opportunities. Love is about opening to possibilities. Seeing the world with new eyes. It widens our heart and mind. Fear incarcerates, but love liberates.” John Mark Green
70. Don't be afraid to be the person who loves the most. Seth Adam Smith Share on X
71. “Do not be afraid of love or the course it will take. There is no certainty in life. Choose love first and choose love last and it will give you more than you ever give it.” Donna Goddard, Waldmeer
72. “Forget how much it hurts and try again.” Bob Marley (More Bob Marley Quotes)
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